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“The taste of the family depends on the taste of the lady”.
“A happy mother can produce a happy child”.
Most of the ladies today fall under the category: high intelligence and low intellect.
Major problem – decision making.
I am not going to discuss about the inability – rather decided to give the solution.
- Managing the career and family simultaneously is impossible for any women.
- They fight too much on a daily basis to do their best everywhere.
- Obviously, this is beyond there capacity and they fail – So mental agitation and frustration leading to unhappiness.
- Only 3 options are available.
- Career women.
- If you decide to be a career women. Then delegate the house hold work to maids / other family members.
- Trust and have faith on them.
- Don’t hesitate to spend on the army of people at home to carry on the daily activities.
- Your little time at home – spent it with your husband and children.
- Have a tutor (Guru) for your child. Relax. Don’t try to teach your child the daily lessons in the little time that you have.
- Rather have fun and play with the little one.
- Simultaneously, only on holidays try to follow the Indian style of living.
- Read scriptures for the knowledge which in turn will change your conditioning of your mind and improve the intellect. Don’t preach the child about it. Live and show the right path to the child.
- Think positive. Nothing will happen to your family, your kids will be a smart citizen ofIndia.
- Parents are not the Guru. Rather they are their role model.
- Lead an organised – happy life.
- Achieve big in your career and make your family proud of you.
- Home maker.
- Being a home maker – It is not required that you should do all the work yourself.
- You can adopt the life style of the career women – delegate all the work and relax.
- Adopt the Indian style of living and read scriptures.
- Put in your hands in all the activities of the house (slowly).
- Enjoy what ever you do and reduce the dislikes. Don’t bother about the comments of the world.
- Eventually you will be an expert in managing your house on your own.
- You will be satisfied as the fruits of your efforts will be seen. This will lead to happiness.
- Happiness brings success and definitively success does not bring in happiness.
- According to me, people who adopt this option whole heartedly achieve something big in life. Provided some little effort is taken all the time.
- This achieving something should be in their line of passion.
- Be a role model – achieve big and make your family feel proud.
- Part – time jobs or work from home.
- I personally don’t recommend these options.
- The lady will spend some time in career and some time at home. She will not have any time to achieve anything big.
Choose between option 1 and option 2. The clarity in decision making is the most important quality anybody should posses to lead a happy life. Don’t think of the other option. Once decided – think how best you can work towards the achievement and happiness.
This remarkable quality will be acquired with the development of the intellect.
In the scriptures in the chapter of karma: Human beings are born in this world to be happy and enjoy the creations of God. If you want to achieve, go head but don’t stress and strain yourself. Rather be determined and do it with commitment whole heartedly. This is called shraddha in sanskrit.
I read a story on this chapter karma: Two people after death reached the Yama loka (God) and the Chitra gupta was reading about their lives and sending them to heaven or hell. The first person was sent to heaven and no enquires made. The second person was sent to hell. He got annoyed and said “how come this first person was sent to heaven. I know him; he lived in my neighbourhood and did nothing but eating and sleeping. But, look at me I achieved so much in life, I worked hard etc”. The Chitra gupta said you are sent to the world to be happy and enjoy the creations of God. If possible achieve something. You were unhappy and agitated all the time to achieve something. These lead to negative thoughts and selfishness. That is why you are sent to heaven.
The best option for a lady is to posses the high intellect and run the family single handedly. Because of the fall in the intellect for so many generations we are finding it difficult. But, I am quite sure that we will achieve this in the next 3 to 4 generations.
Be happy – achieve BIG……………………
See Part 7