Major concerns according to me are,
- Junk Food.
- Peer Pressure.
- Impact of television and other media.
- Maintaining discipline.
- Teaching morals and values.
- Dealing with the educational system.
The mothers and fathers may disagree with many things with each other. But when it comes to challenges faced in parenting the views are mostly similar.
I have one answer to all the challanges – We parents need to be role models.
Junk food – Even we parents think – junk food gives joy. If we are aware that eating junk food spoils the mind and we can never calm down or be active and productive after eating it. Then, may be it is easy to drop it. Junk food is considered as tamasic food meaning it will make the mind lazy (as per Ayurveda).
You enjoy it when you eat it but later you feel lazy. If we eat junk food – we can just sit down or sleep but we can never be productive and active.
When we are aware of this – we will eat; less. The similar thought will be passed on to the kids.
Before analysing the kids peer pressure.
Are you parents influenced by peer pressure ? If the answer is yes. For sure whatever you do – your kids will be influenced by peers.
How long – you as parents watch TV?, how many movies do you see?, how many gadgets you buy? – then decide whether you can control your child by just advising and shouting. Suppose, you don’t watch TV and read books and watch few good movies. You only buy the required gadgets. Then, for sure your child will also be influenced by it.
Maintaining discipline – Do you think – we can inculcate discipline by moral stories. The answer is no but may be to some extent. If the parents are organised and they are keeping up time. All disciplines are followed by the parents with ease. EASE is the most important. If you are taking pressure to follow discipline – then for sure your kids will not have any discipline.
Children are our mirror reflection. If you see some problem in them – then analyse where you are going wrong. For sure, somewhere you are making a mistake.
To understand this, we need to have a calm mind. Please read the scriptures – you will understand it well. Rather than worrying about the society and future of the kids. You first correct yourself. Everything will change.
Rather than thinking how you can groom them – think how much you can change and be a role model.
If you are unable to change – then don’t expect your kids to be a Mahatma.
“Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.” – Robert Fulghum
“The voice of parents is the voice of gods, for to their children they are heaven’s lieutenants.”- Shakespeare
“If you want your children to improve, let them overhear the nice things you say about them to others.” – Haim Ginott
“Lucky parents who have fine children usually have lucky children who have fine parents.” – James A. Brewer
Be a role model and don’t give lectures or force it on children. It works only when you are role model and you don’t talk about it.
I always used to wonder – Indian culture is so good but why did the parents (olden days) never talked about it and educated it to their next generation. Now I understood – it never works when we lecture or force. Unfortunately, some generations choose the liking than the duty – that is when the problem started. But – still Indians quietly gave the scriptures; so that the future generations can read and understand.
Just be quiet and be a Role model.